One of my jobs is as a university professor.... so I have many students; young impressionable minds that hang on to my every word, a lot of them are female and so I interact with a lot of females.
One such female is a young mother (Has a son) in her mid 20s that was raised by her father and grew up with only brothers. This young woman is quite feminine but also a very hard worker, she studies hard and when she fails something (Like any other person eventually will fuck up) she always takes full responsibility and takes an attitude of "Damn it, I'll do better next time" rather than the typical "It's (always) someone else's fault".
This young woman would make a great wife, a great mother and a great friend.... but for me it begs the question; Are the best women the ones raised among men? is it femininity that is highly toxic? I don't know. I have also had many young female students raised by single mothers and with only sisters, they were quite troublesome so the reference I have had is precisely this one that I am bringing up.
The problem is; It is a majority of women that are raised in a highly feminized environment, this leads to women with a high level of hyper entitlement, low level of maturity and complete misunderstanding of what responsibility is. I have heard that traits like honor, discipline and merit are taught exclusively by the realm of man and thus, without the presence of a man, a female will lack these qualities. I can't speak for every female (obviously) but I find that it is very often the case that this is true.
Single fathers raise better daughters than single mothers. This is of course, anecdotal, but I have not only seen this this one time, I have seen it many times. I was raised by a single mother and I "Feel" as though I could have become so much more if I had had my father's presence with me during my formative years. Now I'm not saying my mother did a bad job, she raised a son with very strong morals and work ethic, taking us from the slums of the city to a near-palace through hard work and determination on her part, an amazing woman that raised a skilled, responsible and intelligent son.
But my point is, the average woman is not my mother and cannot raise a son or daughter anywhere near as well as the average man. Worth noting my mother was a feminist back during her youth but what she espoused was not like the feminism of today.
One of her core arguments/complaint was;
(After quiting a fairly lucrative and easy office job)
"I don't want to be given a 'fake job' with throw-away work, I don't care if I am paid more.... I want to be someone important, I want to be someone that can't be replaced. I don't want to just be a pretty face.... give me the same work as a man and if I can't do it, fire me, don't give me less, don't give me protection, don't give me easy work. Give me the same. By the same token don't set me up to fail, I just want a chance to show that I can do what others can do just as good as they can. Not a free ride, not a condescending job, just a legitimate chance to show that I am capable. A chance, with the same risk of failure and success, the same chance as a man in as the same field with the same qualifications as me, that is all I ask."
And I could admire that, that was good, that was very laudable but it is as far removed from modern feminism, from modern single motherhood, from modern women as the sun is distant to neptune. It's just not resembling modernity at all. In any case, good women do exist, not all women are garbage. The catch is it is an extreme minority of women that are this way and I appreciate them greatly. You are special, you are true, special snowflakes.... ironically (or appropriately?) you are the only women who do not see yourselves that way.
The mythology in this case is that the majority of women are as good as these two I mentioned, the mythology is that single mothers are strong rather than incompetent, the mythology lies in telling that men are responsible for the failures of single mothers rather than single mothers being responsible for their own destiny.
All choices have consequences . It's not complicated.
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